I DON’T WANT TO BE BILL GATES AND I THINK THAT’S OKAY: How lofty are our dreams? What kind of heights do we aspire to reach? How valid are these dreams?
We were trained to aspire, to dream big, and eventually, live out our aspirations and dreams.
“Of course, the child that takes the most prizes home in school and always comes first in class doesn’t have two heads.” We should aspire to be a Bill Gates person. I mean, look at Ben Carson, the dullest kid in his class is the world best neurological surgeon. What the hell is stopping you from pushing yourself? What the hell is stopping you from achieving more? Why haven’t you been cashing out on the special gift/talent God has deposited in you? With that talent, you can be the next Mark Zuckerberg!”
I DON’T WANT TO BE BILL GATES, AND I THINK THAT’S OKAY!
I figure that stuff like these are what is contained in motivational and inspirational books. It is such a pity that I hate such books. It is perfectly normal for me to lose myself in a romance novel, as suggested in my previous post. Real-life is not entertaining enough. Yes! I think. Why not lose myself in the fantasy of romance wonders hidden in books? Why not imagine myself as the soft-spoken lady that the prince charming totally adores? When you can be a Cinderella, why be a Linda that is repeatedly being scolded by her mother for not doing the dishes.
My hatred for Motivational books doesn’t end just with the books but extends to persons that try to shove it down my throat. I know I have no affinity to reading “Eat That Frog” or books similar to it. I do not think that I will notice any noteworthy change in my life after reading it. Hell! I do not see any difference in yours either. So kindly desist from giving such advice. I prefer my mushy uninspirational novels anyday!
To be honest, I have not read any Motivational book without sleeping through it half the time. So yes! You might be right to say that I’m not a qualified critic to “dem books.”I think they all sound alike. Droning on words like, “You can do better, you can be better, you are what you think. Look at Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg, all dropouts but richer than the whole of Nigeria.”
In a tiny part of my brain, I don’t think Bill Gates needed to read any motivational or inspirational book to be the “Big Bill Gates.” But then, I wouldn’t know that with all certainty, would I?
A recent conversation with a friend about “his guy” that had the opportunity of working from a branch of his company in China but refused to take the offer. “His guy,” said he was content with his station in his life. He needed no China. But trust me, about 80% of Nigerians will jump at such opportunity with the same speed a typical horny man applies in pulling off his pants to f*ck his girlfriend. I mean, “the bag must be secured” by all means necessary according to the word on the streets.
To deviate a bit, many persons might think that the problems of Nigeria are the leaders. One of those many persons includess my friend Ifeoma who wouldn’t mind using a gun to kill all corrupt leaders and installing new ones. I disagreed with her on this. The problem of Nigeria as a country is not just the leaders but Nigerians themselves.
Nigerians mask their greed with terms like, “I wan blow, hustle oh, the bag must be secured by all means necessary” one might be tempted to ask, what constitutes “by all means necessary.” Little wonder pastors take advantage of their misguided materialism by brain-washing and scamming them in the name of performing miracles. It’s no surprise that the focal point of every sermon is prosperity and the congregation swallow it like balls of eba laced ogbono!
For an average Nigerian, what they envisage as “blowing” is having assorted cars of the latest models, houses all over Victoria Island and Lekki, money in their bank account to cover their 15th generation and so on. It is no wonder Nigerians in other countries are mixed up in a lot of criminal cases such as cyber fraud, drug smuggling, kidnapping, human trafficking. Sometimes, it seems as though that prisons in other countries are meant to incarcerate Nigerians.
I DON’T WANT TO BE BILL GATES, AND I THINK THAT’S OKAY!
I often wonder, is there anything wrong in aspiring for just a comfortable life? Let’s say a good-to-go car, a cozy house in a nice neighborhood, able to send monthly allowance to your parents, and a little left in the bank account for rainy days.
From the time, I had always envisaged this type of “comfortable” lifestyle for myself. I have never wanted a big mansion simply because it’s so easy to feel lonely in it, and will not facilitate an intra-family relationship. Of course, it goes without saying, family means everything to me.
However, It is somewhat possible for a lot of persons to mistake my contentedness for complacency. Although I don’t think it is. A conversation I had with Uju, another close friend went like this. She would ask,
“Linda, don’t you want more? A better apartment, air-condition, human hair weaves?”
“No, I don’t. I’m happy, I’m content. And that’s what most important..”
I don’t think Uju is vain, I just think some persons are conditioned to want more and more from life.
Also, this contentedness doesn’t mean I won’t like to challenge myself every once in a while. It is trite law that stagnation brings about decline. All I am saying is that it is okay if you’re not interested in someone else’s idea of lofty dreams. It is also okay if you hope to achieve such lofty aspirations, it is okay if you don’t want more from life when compared to what others want. I mean, everyone must not be an Oliver Twist.
For me, I don’t want to be Bill Gates, Dangote or Otedola. I want to be Linda who is happy and content, comfortable with her life so that she still connects with her weird musical preferences (according to my friends), and once in a while, loses herself to the beautiful fantasy of romance novels.
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